3 years feels like 30 years

In less than a week on February 14 it will be the three year anniversary of when I met my wife. Yes, we met on Valentine’s day of 2010. It feels like I have known her for much longer. We are very close and she is literally my best friend. We are extremely codependent on each other and we like it that way. Notice I said met her on that day. I did not say that is when we started dating or got married. We had been chatting for almost two months before we started dating. Actually a month and a half because it was the end of March beginning of April when we started dating. She proposed to me first but I said no and then a few weeks later I purposed to her. (I had already planned to purpose) We ended up getting married in June of 2010 after only knowing each other less than half a year and dating for only a few months.

Most people said it wouldn’t last and some still have doubts. If we stood by each other through all we have been through and love each other more for it, then the ones still in denial needs to get over it and accept that we are going to be together forever. I could certainly name the names of those people but I am better than that. We ended up having our first child almost 2 years after we got married in June of 2012. I have to say there has been a lot of ups and downs. I have almost lost Stephanie twice and she has made me mad enough to regret getting married a few times.

The product of our love!

Yet just like how Stephanie always pulls through by the grace of God. I too always calm down and realize my life would not be the same without her and I cannot imagine living the rest of my life without her. She is my soul mate, lover and best friend. A true help mate. I am writing this to let everyone know that God’s plan for marriage is forever. Divorce was never a part of the plan and no matter what goes wrong you should never divorce your spouse. No matter how much someone messes up. A true christian can and will forgive and move on. They will end up learning to love the person over and over again. It is not to say forgetting past wrongs is always easy. Actually it is near impossible to forget some things but to forgive and move on with life is a whole other issue.

Forgiveness and communication is key to making a marriage or any other relationship for that matter work. You also have to get your priorities straight. Once you say “I Do!” that means your spouse needs to be your best friend, second in command and help mate. Men always treat her like a lady. No matter how long you have been together put effort into showing her you care and she will love you and be loyal for that in. Now ladies, please learn your place in the home as help mate. Don’t treat your husband like a child or use sex as a weapon! That is just going to drive your husband into the arms of another woman. Men if you abuse your spouse you can expect her to open her legs for someone else.

When a family has the proper roles for the proper places, the family unit will remain strong. If those roles are reversed the family is unstable and will break. If only one role is reversed it can bring down the family like removing one card from a house of cards. Broken homes are a terrible thing and I am blessed to have a wife who is eager and loves to have the proper role in our marriage. I say this not to attack or bash anyone, I say this out of love to give the message of truth.

Also for my wife whom I know will read this. I love you very much! I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day a wee bit early. I also want to say thank you for being a part of my life the last three years and for the rest of my life.